The Power of Curiosity – Getting Comfortable with NOT KNOWING

The Power of Curiosity – Getting Comfortable with NOT KNOWING

  We all make them all the time. For example,  within seconds of arriving at a meeting recently, the faciliator made the comment that at the webinar we had two weeks before, my facial expression  seemed  serious and how my mouth was kind of turned down. I was really surprised by the comment. I wasn't expecting it at all.  At the webinar I felt very calm, still and focused - drawing on an inner deep well of still energy. I had no idea what she was talking about. Later I brought it up when giving feedback after a mindfulness exercise we had just done. I said that inferences and assumptions were made based on my facial expression. I was actually very present and calm in spite of being very, very tired (11pm start time for webinar). And that I was somewhat taken aback by the earlier comment. This kind of misunderstanding happens all the time. 'Assumption' is defined in the dictionary as "1. a...
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Conscious Breathing – How to Breath Optimally

  A week ago , at a conscious  breathing workshop I was running, a participant asked about how we lost our ability to breath optimally...so let me answer this question here so everyone can benefit. Have you ever watched a sleeping baby?  I love to watch sleeping babies. I find the gentle rising and falling of a baby's belly very relaxing and calming. Babies naturally breathe diaphragmatically - using the diaphragm which is the major muscle used for breathing. We were all babies and naturally breathed healthily. So how did many of us manage to lose this natural gift of healthy diaphragmatic breathing? Well, as we grow up fear, anxiety, resistance and contractions creep in to our body and mind and over time our breathing changes. When we are fearful, it triggers the fight, freeze or flight response in our body and one of the symptoms is that our lungs and heart rate increase resulting in increased blood pressure and faster breathing. Muscles also tense...
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This Explains it …Focus

This Explains it …Focus

 Sherlock Holmes and Dr Watson are camping. Holmes wakes up Watson in the middle of the night and tells him to gaze up at the stars in the sky and see what he can deduce. Watson remarks that there were thousands of stars probably extending far beyond the galaxy, that at least some could mimic our largest and most powerful planet – the sun, thus suggesting other distant planets might be populated with human life. “That’s an impressive amount of deduction just from looking up at the stars,” Holmes said, “ but the first thing you might have deduced is – someone has STOLEN OUR TENT.” On the subject of observing things,  I was watching 'Horizon - Seeing Stars') ', on BBC 4, yesterday evening and was fascinated to see that NASA has an airborne observatory in an airplane called Sofia - a jumbo jet that has had a $1 billion makeover to carry  a 17 ton telescope that detects infrared light. ...
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Frazzled?  Re-balance Within

Frazzled? Re-balance Within

Modern life is super challenging with always on technology and rapid change and it's hard to find more balance in our lives.  How well are you managing to blend the demands of work, family, leisure, relationships, time for self? A couple of weeks ago, I had the wonderful opportunity to go to Torcross,  South Devon for the weekend with my friend Angela. We started our time there with an energetic 2-hour walk on the shingles beach. We treated ourselves to  lovely home-made cakes and fish and chips. We went to sleep and woke up to the magnificents sound of waves and enjoyed the sea view  from our room. On the Sunday, we went for a 6-hour walk along the beautiful South Devon coast with  Start Point Lighthouse as our destination.  We meandered inland for an hour or so but got back on course (it helps to take a map when you go walking lol :) .We meditated each morning, did yoga and...
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Purpose and Happiness

  Purpose.  Do you have it in your life? Knowing your life purpose can be very illusive. If you don't know what you are here to do on earth it can leave you feeling lost and unhappy. Research shows that most people want happiness (global survey by Dienar and Scollan, 2003). Being happy is followed  closely by health and love, then wealth. Yet, according to Gallup's 142-country study on the 'State of the Global Workplace', 63% of  the global workforce are unhappy at work (roughly 900 million people). And since most of our life is spend working, this matters.That's right, most people  are  "not engaged", lack motivation and are  “checked out, sleepwalking through their workday, putting in time but not energy or passion into their work”Stop for a moment, please,  and consider this question... Are you one of the 63%?   And, there's more...the bottom 24% are "actively disengaged," indicating they are unhappy and unproductive at work and liable to spread negativity to others (340...
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Kama – Pleasure

Kama – Pleasure

KAMA - PLEASURE  St Valentine's day - symbolizing love and  romance, is celebrated in     Western societies with the giving of  roses, chocolates and other tokens of love.I decided to check out the origins of Valentine's Day and discovered that it's apparently more legend than fact that St Valentine was associated with romance. According to legend St. Valentine was a priest who died defending marriage when the  Roman emperor, Claudius II Grothicus, banned it and was beheaded for his troubles.The modern association of St Valentine's with romance and love  is apparently due to Geoffrey Chaucer in the middle ages, famous for The Canterbury Tales ( I had to study that for  'A' level English)  who one might say poetically made up his own legend with the words “For this was sent on Seynt Valentyne’s day / When every foul cometh ther to choose his mate.”Happy Valentine's Day. Wishing you much pleasure and love. Love & Pleasure Pleasure is a word that conjures up many images.  ...
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Dying to Find Bliss

Dying to Find Bliss

When I was in my mid-thirties and working in the corporate world and wanting to leave and not knowing what else to do and so kept doing what I was doing and feeling stuck and frustrated, I became aware of an inner 'force' for want of a better word that I had never been aware of before  'pushing' me to take action and it seemed crazy. Most people were lying low, playing it safe and not stirring the waters as the dreaded redundancy was looming and I would be going to my manager and saying, I want to be promoted and I want... This was out of character for me and I was baffled! I kept asking myself if I was nuts...It made no sense whatsoever... and then I was made redundant and 'free' to do something else. And what did I do, I went off to India on what turned out to be a spiritual journey and did a yoga teacher training...
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